Model the behavior you want your children to exhibit by picking up your personal items and putting them away. Even make comments out loud about putting your things away
Try making a game out of cleanup or offer a reward such as going outside or painting
Remain neutral in tone of voice and posture when following through with a consequence. Children can read frustration and anger and sometimes act negatively because of it
You may have to change consequences periodically if they fail to be effective
Consult a professional family doctor if you experience extreme frustration or anger when disciplining your child.